Maybe it's the movies or romantic novels or postcards from rural locations, but I think it's fair to say that most Americans (probably due to the fact that many of us live in cities or close enough to them that trees in fields are a novelty) believe that a country life is a simple life. How could it not be? No rush hour. No long lines at Starbucks. No keeping up with the Jones' dogs. No working for the corporate monster who doesn't give a shit whether you work your paid eight hours, or twelve hours without overtime. No bosses who call you Carrie instead of Camie, or Greaseball instead of Griswald. Yes, living in the country most definitely must be a slice of heaven. And compared to all that, is it. No doubt about it.
But as it is with all things, there is a distinct downside to moving miles and miles away from all the jobs; something that doesn't make it all that simple. Money. We aren't fools. We decided to make this move knowing we were giving up fulfilling and lucrative careers in order to pursue our dream of land and space and quiet. We knew there would be a learning curve. We knew money would be tight for a bit. We knew we would have to live in a 200 square foot Airstream for six months while our barn was being converted into our home. And true to our word, we got through all of that, no problem. (On a side note, I just looked at the clock, and I am officially 38 years old. Good god.)
But what's interesting is that now, after more than a year living here, we are feeling the repercussions of our decision more than ever. We are broke. There it is. We are po' folk in the worst way. For the first time in our life together, we are living paycheck to paycheck. We qualify for Medical, for the love of all that is holy. MEDICAL. And yet we are happy. Happier than I dare say we have ever been. We look over our land each sunset and toast with our expensive wine that we can only drink because I get it for 50% off and say how lucky we are to have this life. We really do this every night. Every single night. And then when the wine is gone we scrounge through our fridge to find dinner.
Being a lover and teacher of literature my entire life, I am a romantic. I have fanaticized about the love of my life and me being poor and destitute and against the world (I have also fantasized about us being the wealthiest couple on the planet, able to give assistance and aid to millions). Us versus everyone else. Our love conquers all. Money doesn't matter. Status doesn't matter. Possessions don't matter. Of course, in my fantasies we are always in a third world country where no one else has shit either, which makes being broke-ass a hell of a lot easier.
Naturally, our present situation is very different than my fantasies, but that's what makes it breathtaking. That's what makes it real. We are poor in a world that says we are nothing without money. We are broke in a culture that says we are defined by what we own and what we have in the bank. We are penniless in a society where the OC Housewives reign supreme because of their money and homes and cars and Botox (which I just read, I'm horrified to say, fucks you up in a bad way).
And in the face of all of this, we are content. We are happy, even. We are poor and we are happy. We are broke and we are in love and we are at peace. I may have to file for bankruptcy soon, but I have never loved my life more than I do now.
And really, what else can any of us ask for?
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